People differ dramatically in their view towards it, but, generally speaking, there are two types of people in the world – those who think the man should pick up the tab on a first date and those who think the idea of a man paying is outdated.
Should you be offended if a man wants to pay on a first date? Absolutely not.
Still confused? Here are 11 reasons why you should always let a man pay on a first date.
Like it or not, we’re still attracted to potential partners based on similar principles as our caveman ancestors, and being a ‘provider’ is one of them, especially when making instinctive, primal decisions.
(Also known as, do you fancy the bloke or not).
‘First dinner date buying’ doesn’t mean he’s going to carry you for the whole relationship, nor should you expect it to.
It doesn’t even mean he’ll be doing the same thing the second date, but it does mean he values you enough to be generous.
Your date is not your friend.
And, whilst it would be ridiculous to expect a friend to pay for you on a night out, the dynamics of a date are different, and, so too, are the rules.
A man shouting you the first date is not about buying you – it’s about the value of your company, and paying on a first date is the easiest most direct way of demonstrating this.
The boundaries are confusing enough these days, but allowing your date to pay means you are letting him flex a bit of the ol’ man muscles, look after you and take romantic control.
It can sound outdated, but, allowing a man to ‘provide’, even if it’s a token gesture of a meal, is far more conducive to chemistry than shouting him down for daring to try to buy you a few glasses of wine and burger.
If you think that your date will expect sex at the end of the night for buying you an American hot, it’s not your values you need to look at it’s your choice of men.
And just because you are capable of paying, it doesn’t mean you should.
First dates are confusing enough without having to launch into an argument about who’s paying at the end of it – offering to pay but graciously accepting the offer not to, shows your date you’re happy to pay your way but won’t get scary if he insists you don’t.
Allowing a man to hold a door open for you or pick up a bill won’t mean that you’ll lose the right to vote, it simply means that sometimes it’s Ok to enjoy old school manners.
Pulling out a calculator and splitting a bill straight down the middle is fine if you are fourteen and are dining out on this week’s pocket money.
A far more grown-up way of dating is taking turns on picking up the bill or offering to buy a round of drinks after the meal, to show you’re not in it for a free ride.
Or, if he can’t afford to pay the bill he shouldn’t be in the restaurant.
A few drinks, a trip to a gallery or a walk in the park are all perfectly respectable date options that don’t cost the earth.
If dinner was his call it should be his shout.
Culled From Metro.co.uk
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